Helping Mom or Dad Move to Assisted Living

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When you're an adult child helping mom or dad move to an assisted living facility, age in place or downsize to a smaller apartment, the situation can become very stressful. Moving mom or dad from the home you grew up in or a home where they've lived for years can also be extremely emotional. It’s an overwhelming job to find and uncover decades of memories and belongings. To then have to sort through them and decide what your parents are taking with them and what the rest of the family is keeping. Where do you start? How do you know what to keep, donate, or throw away? What's the best way to make your parent comfortable in his or her new place?

We can help get you started and talk through the many of questions, as well as assist with the entire move process. When it comes to seniors and moving, it's always a better idea to choose someone who has experience with senior transitions rather than a standard moving company. Many cherished belongings carry with them years of memories. Sometimes these are negative associations that should be eliminated from the new space, and sometimes they are positive forces that will make the new space truly a home. Sorting between these two is a huge task and can benefit strongly from an objective and compassionate third-party view. 

Top reasons to choose someone to manage a senior move

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You want professional services because you're not close with your parents

Sometimes adult children may not have close relationships with their parents, due to personal differences or physical distance. Lack of understanding or interest in the job can lead to stress and emotional problems on both sides. Involving a third-party expert in the matter brings control of the situation back to the senior and reduces the likelihood of family tension.

You want an objective third-party view because you're too close to your parents

On the other hand, adult children who are very close to their parents may find the process of downsizing too overwhelming. They may have the same emotional attachment to items as their parents, making it hard to objectively choose what needs to go, or they may spend too long sorting through things. We help detangle emotional attachments from the true future needs of the parents.

You need an organizing professional to help plan around Alzheimers' or dementia

If a senior suffers from a mental condition such as Alzheimers' or dementia, it's important to evaluate items for their safety and accessibility as well as functional value. Items or furniture pieces with confusing patterns, dark spots, glass surfaces, or sharp corners should be culled. These can be distressing to someone with dementia and dangerous to those with low mobility or visibility. Additionally, items that are familiar and well-loved by the senior should be kept, if possible, since they will help the new place feel familiar and reduce mental discomfort.

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You need a project manager because organizing the whole house is overwhelming

We come in as essentially a project manager. A whole home can be hard to sort through, especially when there are many rooms, closets, basement and attic spaces to go through. A project manager will organize floor maps of the home and the new space, and help track and organize furniture as the process goes along. If time is permitted, the manager will advance room by room, decluttering and organizing in a methodical way. 

You want an expert declutterer to help you figure out what to do with all the extra stuff

After you've chosen what you want to keep, a move manager can help you figure out what to do with the rest. Many items can be sold or donated instead of thrown away, and any donations can be deducted from year-end tax returns. We make suggestions and identify items with the most resale value, if that is something the client would like us to manage as well.

You want someone to help you plan where to put things in the new space

If desired, we can help plan where to put things in the new living area to optimize space and maximize comfort and utility. If either the senior or the people helping are not organized themselves, the new home may have the same organizational problems as the last one. If the move is out of state, you can pre-empt this problem by hiring a professional organizer on the other side who will work with us to follow plan out in the new place.

The most important part: start organizing well ahead of time

If you are an adult child getting ready to help an aging parent move into assisted living or a smaller apartment, but you have limited time or ability to do so, this may be a good choice. We can spend much more time with your parent helping sort through everything, plan the layout of the new space, and be realistic about what and how many things your parent can take with them on the next phase of their lives. 

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Most importantly, planning ahead and taking time to help elderly loved ones plan their move will always result in a better transition and help preserve family connections. If you know your parents will be moving within the next 1-4 years, get in touch with us sooner than later. With more time for everyone to work together toward the end goal, there will be less stress and emotional demand and possibly enjoyment and time to celebrate a new beginning.

For a limited time, we're offering 10% off any service to first-time clients. Do you have a big moving job coming up soon? Now's the time to call!

Lisa Geraci Rigoni